Publications Books • 102 Questions to Ask, Consider and Think About Before You Get Divorced • 102 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged, Married, and Celebrate your First Ten Wedding Anniversaries • Vedibarta Bam: And You Shall Speak of Them - Marriage • שאלות ותשובות דברי טוביה - חלק א Periodical newsletter Dear Rabbi Mordechai Hecht Series #001: How Can I Truly Get to Know My Date Without Becoming Too Vulnerable? #002: What do I do that my parents were abusive both physically and emotionally and that’s all we saw. How do I offer my children better? #003: What can I do when I feel like my marriage is totally at its end and we don’t even talk anymore ? #004: What do I do? It’s a second marriage for both of us. We had multiple kids in this new marriage, and we both have kids from our prior marriage. Thank G-d, parnassah is good, but our marriage is on the rocks. My husband’s commitment to working like all men—and his Yiddishkeit—have both declined. What can I do to bring my marriage (and husband) back on track? #005: Dear Rabbi, I write with a heavy heart and sincere hope you might help. My husband and I have been married many years and are blessed with children, baruch Hashem. Yet emotionally, I feel alone. He’s good and responsible, but distant. There was never a deep bond, and mikveh has felt more like obligation than connection. We've tried multiple therapists, with only brief progress. Now we’re in debt and can’t afford more. I feel like a widow in my own marriage. I’ve turned to mentors and rabbanim, but nothing truly helped. Is there still hope—or should I prepare for separation? #006: 11 Things Intelligent Jews Find Relaxing That Others Often Struggle With — A Torah Perspective #007: Is our generation more challenged with more odds to a successful marriage? #008: My wife left the House after months of real issues in our marriage and I really need to learn some conparenting techniques, can you advise? #009: As life moves on things can become monotonous in marriage and life in general how can I find more novelty in my life? #010: After over a decade of dating, I married in 2021—only to face a painful separation and unexpected divorce while 5 months pregnant. I’m overwhelmed with shame, anger, and confusion. How do I survive this trauma and shattered dream? #011: One son, 15 doesn’t want to dorm, another, 21, can’t make up his mind Yeshivah of college? What advice can you share #012: To Love Is to “Take” #013: If my mother wants something from me and my husband wants something different at the same time, what should I do? Is honoring my parents, a biblical obligation (kibbud av va’em) greater than keeping peace in my marriage and honoring my spouse (shalom bayis)? #014: I’m considering divorce because, although my wife and I share a home and family, she has little interest in my spiritual pursuits and rarely joins me in religious growth. Socially, too, she avoids traveling, engaging with people, or building community. At times it feels like we live in different worlds. I often hear that marriage in Judaism is not only about companionship but about growth and enhancement. Could you explain why Torah views marriage as a path of spiritual and personal development, and how this perspective might apply to my situation? #015: Making the Cut #016: What advice can you give me with regard to blending families?